HOW TO RECONDITION YOURSELF FOR SUCCESS

Reconditioning old self

The number one obstacle on the road to high level success is the feeling that major accomplishment is beyond reach. these attitude sterms from many, many supressive forces that directs our thinking  toward mediocre levels.

To understand these supressive forces, lets go back to the time we were children, as children, all of us set high goals. at a supisingly young age we made plans to conquer the unknown, to be leaders, to attain the position of high importance, to do exciting and stimulating things, to become wealthy and famous, to be the first, biggest and best. and in our blessed ignorance we saw our way clear to accomplish these goals.

But what happened? Long before we reached the age where we could begin to work toward our great objectives, a multitude of supressive influence went to work.

From all sides we heard "It's foolishto be a dreamer'' and that our ideas were "impratical, stupid, naive and foolish," that you have got to have money before you can go places,"  that luck determines who gets ahead or you've got to have important friends," or you are " too old or too young."
As a result of being bombarded with this kind of mentality you then give up. most people are classified into three groups.

                        Classification of people in relation to success or failure.

First Group: the majority of people are convinced deep down inside that they haven't got what it takes, that real success, real accomplishment, is for others who are lucky or fortunate in some special respect. you can usually spot these people because they go to great length to rationalize their status and explain how ''happy'' they really are.

A very intelligent man, age thirty-two, who has dead ended himself in a safe but mediocre position, recently spent hours telling me why he was so satisfied with his job. he did a good job of rationalizing, but he was only kidding himself and he knew it. what he really wanted was to work in a challenging situation where he could grow and develop. but that multitude of ''supressive influences'' had convinced him that he was inadequate for big things.

This group is, in reality, just the other extreme of the dis-contented job switcher searching for opportunity. Rationalizing yourself into a rut, which incidentally have been described as grave with both ends open, can be as bad as wondering aimlessely, hoping opportunity will somehow, someday hit you in the face.


Second Group : A second but much smaller group enters adult life with considerable hope for success. these people prepare themselves. they work, they plan. but, after a decade or so. resistance begins to build up, competition for top level jobs looks rugged. these group then decide that greater success is not worth the effort. They rationalize, '' we are earning more than the average and we live better than the average. why should we knock ourselves out?''

Actually, this groups have developed a set of fears: of failure, fear of social disapproval, fear of insecurity, fear of loosing what they already have. these people aren't satisfied because deep down they know they have surrendered. this groups include many talented, intelligent people who elect to crawl through life because they are afraid to stand up and run.


Third Group : Those who never surrender. this group may be two or three percent of the total, doesn't let pessimism dictate, doesn't believe to surrendering to suppressive forces, doesn' t believe in crawling, instead these people live and breath success. these group is the happiest because it accomplishes the most. these people become top salesman, top executives, top leaders in their various fields. these people find life stimulating, rewarding, worthwhile. these people look forward to each new day, each new encounter with other people, as adventures to be lived fully.

lets be honest, all of us will like to be in the third group, the one that finds greater success each year, the one that does things and gets result. to get and stay in this group, however we must fight off the suppressive influences of our environment. To understand how persons in the first and second group will try to hold you back, study this example.

suppose you tell several of your average friends, with  the greatest sincerity: " someday i am going to be the vice president of this company."

what will happen? you friends will probably think you are joking. and if they should believe you, they are likely to say, poor and rached fellow like you, how do you hope to achieve that? behind your back they may even question you wether you are alright.

lets assume you repeat the same statement to them of you becoming the vice president of your company, one thing is certain they will laugh and mock you. or suppose you tell some average individuals your plan  to own a n expensive house, they would laugh because they think it's impossible. they think it is impossible because they know you. but tell your plans to someone who already owns or live in an expensive home, and he wont be surprised, because he owns it and knows it's possible to our yours as well. remember people who always tell you ''it cannot be done'' are usually not successful. they are strictly average or mediocre in terms of accomplishment. Develop a defense against people who wants to convince you that you cannot do it. Accept negative advice only as a challenge to do better.